ENP兒童的特點(ENFP/ENTP)

  1. ENP兒童(外向、直覺、感知)


    ENP特征:

    精力充沛;
    對任何事都好奇,看上去總是在問“為什麼”;
    有很多想法,並喜歡談論;
    總是有若幹項目處於進行狀態;
    希望有獨創性並令人關注;
    喜歡成為領導者,拒絕跟隨他人;
    喜歡交際;
    很獨立,希望為自己做事;
    希望成為人們的注意中心;
    可能傾向於充滿激情,喜歡表演和表現;
    坦率有力,可能會頻繁地打斷旁人講話,或者主動為講話人結束語句。

    ENP潛在強項:

    通常愉快樂觀,樂於四處走走;
    熱心、無畏;
    相信任何事都是可能的;
    具備良好的溝通技巧和優異的能力,能讓他人改變立場向自己的觀點讓步;
    通常詞彙豐富,書麵和口頭表達能力較強;
    很聰明;
    對人和形勢,顯示出一種對孩子來說不尋常的理解力;
    有良好的人際交往技巧,通常被人喜愛;
    很自然地看到某種形勢背後的可能性和“全局”。

    ENP潛在弱點:

    時常忘記規則,或者從沒把規則放在首要位置;
    同一時間有很多項目在進行中,可能四處分散;
    時常不完成其項目;
    通常很髒,不喜歡清理打掃;
    有說話很大聲卻自己意識不到的傾向;
    做決定有困難,並且經常抗絕決定;
    經常意識不到周邊環境;
    可能不會很好地照顧自己;
    通常對時間或計劃表不太有意識;
    不喜歡被他人支配,可能會不服管;
    不喜歡被要求去做事,對於任何請求,都經常表現得像是成了“犧牲品”。

    ENP學習方式:

    ENP們喜歡忙碌積極,為了防止厭煩,需要大量激勵。他們發現需要死記硬背的功課極其乏味。對於遵循他人提供的預定義步驟,他們也做不太好。ENP們喜歡專注於自己的項目。他們隻在自己感興趣做的事情上花力氣,這典型地意味著他們需要想出主意或以某種方式為該項目出力。或者,如果受其他人宣傳鼓動,他們對某個項目開始感興趣了,那也可能被激發至參與其中。
    ENP們對手邊任務的注意力很容易分散,很需要提高能力來關注正在做的事,並去除環境中的分心因素。對ENP們來說,這是一種培養出來的技能。這並不意味著ENP必須被關在某個房間裏工作,這實際上對ENP有害。他們和別人一起、或在別人附近時幹得最好。專注於工作的同時,如果有旁人在場,對他們來說是一種很需要的激勵。
    ENP們在結束自己啟動的項目方麵有麻煩。這主要是歸於他們容易被環境分散注意力的因素,但也是因為一旦過了計劃階段,他們會很快對項目失去興趣。ENP喜歡提出有意思的想法和事情去做,但發現實際上實施計劃的過程冗長乏味。ENP們不會完成所有的項目,這應該可以理解,但應該鼓勵ENP最終完成一些項目。這對ENP是很重要的,他們需要認識到將工作進行到底的價值。
    能教給ENP的最有價值的事,是縮小關注範圍。每一刻,ENP腦中會有很多想法在轉,他們相信自己能做成任何事情。他們的見識並不注重現實,得反複告訴他們“做一件事並做好”。如果成年人能讓幼小的ENP牢記住這一點,那將是給了他們一份極好的禮物。
    ENP們不太關心成績,也不太關心做家庭作業。他們拒絕做那些讓人乏味的功課。相對於實際去解決問題,他們對理解問題背後的理論更感興趣。通過理論、而不是實例來學習,他們學得最好。他們需要在做任何事之前首先理解原理。為了讓ENP學進去,教師必須將實際應用背後的原理告知他們。
    讓我們舉除法的例子。一些孩子學習除法的最佳辦法是一遍又一遍地做練習。他們通過範例和重複來學習。一旦他們做了大量不同的除法題目後,他們就理解了除法是如何計算的,然後能夠自在地去做除法。ENP們學習除法的最佳辦法,是去理解將一個整個的數分割成若幹小部分的概念。他們看著一個圓中間劃了一條直線,然後明白了這整個圓被切成了兩個半圓,或者“除”成了兩半。一旦他們理解了原理,就能把它運用到除法題中,然後自在地去做除法。
    ENP們以達成目標為方向。當給出一個目標並讓他們以自己的方式獨自去完成時,他們幹得較好。他們不喜歡被清楚地告知如何做事。他們很珍視自己的想法和能力,認為明確的指示基本上是對自己智力的一種侮辱。他們希望獲得一個目標和一般的原理,然後調用自己的資源去填充其間的空白。

    ENP的特殊需要:

    ENP孩子對人的感知能力非常強,很容易判斷其他人的態度。如果一位父母懲戒ENP孩子時顯得很勉強或很猶豫,孩子會立即注意到,覺得他們也許能設法使你不實施懲罰。一般而言,ENP會經常試試可否越界,並總會試著把界線推遠一點。如果應該在9:30上床睡覺,他們會推遲到10:00。當他們能推遲到10:00後,他們會推遲到10:30。對ENP孩子,界線和規定必須定義得明確而堅決。
    ENP們認為任何事都是可能的,所以他們很難接受不能按其想法做事的現實。這給父母造成一個問題:如何試著為ENP孩子的行為製定規範。ENP們相信,任何情況下成果總是能產生出來的,所以他們會去做想自己做的事。如此一來,他們必然難以接受不能按其想法做事的現實。告知ENP不能做某事或不能獲得某物,會令他們費解和煩惱。隻要是想做的事,他們會反複地提出來並詢問。為了讓他們接受父母的意見,需要告訴他們父母為什麼要設定規則和界線。對ENP孩子,規則必須定義明確,不留變通解釋的餘地。
    ENP孩子非常獨立,其自尊大量地來源於能較好完成任務的自身能力。他們喜歡自行其是,不要父母或其他成年人告訴他們該做什麼。為了給予成長中的ENP以最好的鼓勵,成年人可以對他們的項目表示興趣,對他們的想法表示欽佩,並讓ENP不依靠太多的特別指導、而是想出辦法靠自己做事情。這和製定行為規範時應采用的方法並不相同。規定和界線必須堅決地設置給孩子,但是需要避免為達成目標給出特別指示。

    “缺失”的字母:

    成年人的人格類型包含4個字母,對於7至12歲的孩子,我們使用3個字母。那個缺失的字母呢?它在那兒,隻是我們通常得等孩子13歲後才能確定它是什麼。ENP孩子將成長為ENTP“幻想者”或ENFP“鼓舞者”。他們到底會選擇“思維”還是“情感”來補充其“直覺”偏向,在這個成長階段還不明顯。你將會看到,孩子反複練習“思考”和“情感”,直至在他們更喜歡些的那個功能上安頓下來。對某些孩子,分辨他們“缺失”的字母是可能的;但是對很多孩子,我們還得等上若幹年才能確定。



    3.Portrait of an ENP Child (Extraverted iNtuitive Perceiving)


    ENP Traits

    They have a lot of energy
    They're curious about everything, and seem to be always asking "Why?"
    They have lots of ideas and love to talk about them
    They always have several projects going on
    They want to be original and interesting
    They like to be leaders, and resist following
    They're very social
    They're very independent, and want to do things for themselves
    They want to be the center of attention
    They probably tend to be dramatic, and enjoy acting or performing
    They're outspoken and energetic, and may interrupt frequently, or finish people's sentences for them

    Potential Strengths

    They're usually cheerful, optimistic, and fun to be around
    They're enthusiastic and fearless
    They believe that anything is possible
    They have very good communication skills and a strong ability to persuade others to come around to their point of view
    They usually have a good vocabulary, and can express themselves well in written and verbal form
    They're very clever
    They show an unusual understanding of people and situations for a child
    They have good people skills and are usually well-liked
    They naturally see the possibilities of a situation and the "big picture"

    Potential Weaknesses

    They frequently forget rules, or else they never knew them in the first place
    They have a lot of projects going on at one time, and may be scattered
    They frequently don't finish their projects
    They're usually very messy, and dislike cleaning up
    They tend to speak in a very loud voice without realizing it
    They have difficulty making decisions, and often resist decisions
    They are often unaware of their physical environment
    They may not take good care of themselves
    They're not usually very aware of time or schedules
    They don't like being controlled by others, and may be rebellious
    They dislike being asked to do anything, and will often act very "put upon" by any request

    ENP Learning Style

    ENPs like to be busy and active, and need a lot of stimulation to keep from getting bored. They find tasks that require rote memorization intensely boring. They also don't do well with following pre-defined steps that someone else has come up with. ENPs like to be involved in their projects. They will only put effort into things that they are very interested in doing, which typically means that they need to have come up with the idea or contributed to it somehow. Alternatively, they can be motivated to participate in projects if someone else has really sold them on the idea, and thus inspired them to be interested in the project.

    ENPs are distracted easily from the task at hand, and need to really develop their ability to focus in on what they're doing and close out environmental distractions. This is an acquired skill for ENPs. This does not mean that the ENP should be put in a room by themselves to work on their assignments. This would actually be detrimental to the ENP. They work best with others, and around others. They should be encouraged to work on their projects in the presence of others, but to remain focused on what they're doing.

    ENPs have trouble finishing projects that they have begun. This is partially due to the fact that they are easily distracted environmentally, but also due to the fact that they quickly lose interest in their projects once they are past the planning phase. ENPs love to come up with interesting ideas and things to do, but find the process of actually implementing their plans to be tedious. ENPs will not finish all of their projects, and this should be understood, but the ENP should be encouraged to complete some projects all the way through to the end. This is an important step for the ENP, who needs to learn the value of following through.

    The most valuable thing that can be taught to an ENP is the concept of narrowing their focus. The ENP has many ideas going on at once in their head, and believes that they can do everything. They are not realistic in their scope. They should be told repeatedly "pick one thing and do it well". The adult who is able to impress this upon the young ENP will be giving them a tremendous gift.

    ENPs are not very concerned with their grades, or with doing their homework. They will resist doing assignments that they find tedious. They are far more interested in understanding the theory behind a problem than they are in actually doing the problem. They learn best by theory rather than by example. They need to understand the theory before they can do anything. Teachers should communicate the theory behind the practical application in order to get through to the ENP.

    Let's use division as an example. Some children learn how to divide numbers best by doing it over and over again. They learn by example and repetition. Once they have done a lot of different division problems, they understand how it works and are comfortable with dividing numbers. ENPs learn division best by understanding the concepting of dividing a whole number into smaller parts. They see a circle with a line drawn down the middle, and understand that the whole has been cut in half, or "divided" in half. Once they understand the theory, they can apply this to their division problems and they are comfortable with dividing numbers.

    ENPs are goal-oriented, and do well when given the goal and left alone to achieve it in their own way. They don't like being told explicitly how to do things. They value their own ideas and competence, and treat explicit instructions almost as an insult to their intelligence. They want to be given a goal and a general theory, and use their own resources to fill in the blanks.

    ENP Special Needs

    ENP children are extremely perceptive about people, and can determine someone else's attitude pretty easily. If a parent disciplines their ENP child reluctantly or with hesitation, the ENP will pick up on that immediately and perceive that they might be able to get away with pushing you to not discipline them. In general, the ENP tests their boundaries regularly, and will always try to push their boundaries out a bit further. If they're supposed to be in bed at 9:30, they'll push for 10:00. When they get 10:00, they'll push for 10:30. Boundaries and guidelines need to be defined explicitly and firmly for the ENP child.

    ENPs believe that anything is possible, so they have a hard time accepting that they can't get their way. This creates a problem for parents trying to create guidelines for their ENP children's behavior. ENPs believe that surely things could be worked out in any situation so that the ENP gets want they want, and consequently they have a really hard time accepting that they're not going to get their way. For an ENP, being told that they can't do something or have something is perplexing and troubling. They will push repeatedly and ask repeatedly for whatever it is that they're seeking. In order for them to accept their parent's judgment, they need to be told WHY the parent has set the rule or boundary. The rule needs to be defined explicitly to the ENP child, with no room for alternative interpretation.

    ENP children are very independent and find their greatest source of self-esteem from their abilities to do things well. They want to do things for themselves, and resist having their parents or other adults telling them what to do. An adult can best encourage a growing ENP by showing interest in their projects and admiration for the ENP's ideas, and by letting the ENP figure out how to do things on their own without too many specific instructions. This is different from the approach that should be taken when defining guidelines for behavior. Rules and boundaries should be set firmly for the child, but specific instructions on achieving goals should be avoided.

    The "Missing" Letter

    Adult personality types contain four letters, while for kids aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is around 13 years old. ENP kids will grow up to be either ENTP "Visionaries" or ENFP "Inspirers". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Thinking or Feeling to complement their preference for Intuition. You will see the child practicing both Thinking and Feeling as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.


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    • 心理成長

      ENP兒童(外向、直覺、感知)




      ENP特征:


      精力充沛;

      對任何事都好奇,看上去總是在問“為什麼”;

      有很多想法,並喜歡談論;

      總是有若幹項目處於進行狀態;

      希望有獨創性並令人關注;

      喜歡成為領導者,拒絕跟隨他人;

      喜歡交際;

      很獨立,希望為自己做事;

      希望成為人們的注意中心;

      可能傾向於充滿激情,喜歡表演和表現;

      坦率有力,可能會頻繁地打斷旁人講話,或者主動為講話人結束語句。



      ENP潛在強項:


      通常愉快樂觀,樂於四處走走;

      熱心、無畏;

      相信任何事都是可能的;

      具備良好的溝通技巧和優異的能力,能讓他人改變立場向自己的觀點讓步;

      通常詞彙豐富,書麵和口頭表達能力較強;

      很聰明;

      對人和形勢,顯示出一種對孩子來說不尋常的理解力;

      有良好的人際交往技巧,通常被人喜愛;

      很自然地看到某種形勢背後的可能性和“全局”。



      ENP潛在弱點:


      時常忘記規則,或者從沒把規則放在首要位置;

      同一時間有很多項目在進行中,可能四處分散;

      時常不完成其項目;

      通常很髒,不喜歡清理打掃;

      有說話很大聲卻自己意識不到的傾向;

      做決定有困難,並且經常抗絕決定;

      經常意識不到周邊環境;

      可能不會很好地照顧自己;

      通常對時間或計劃表不太有意識;

      不喜歡被他人支配,可能會不服管;

      不喜歡被要求去做事,對於任何請求,都經常表現得像是成了“犧牲品”。



      ENP學習方式:


      ENP們喜歡忙碌積極,為了防止厭煩,需要大量激勵。他們發現需要死記硬背的功課極其乏味。對於遵循他人提供的預定義步驟,他們也做不太好。ENP們喜歡專注於自己的項目。他們隻在自己感興趣做的事情上花力氣,這典型地意味著他們需要想出主意或以某種方式為該項目出力。或者,如果受其他人宣傳鼓動,他們對某個項目開始感興趣了,那也可能被激發至參與其中。

      ENP們對手邊任務的注意力很容易分散,很需要提高能力來關注正在做的事,並去除環境中的分心因素。對ENP們來說,這是一種培養出來的技能。這並不意味著ENP必須被關在某個房間裏工作,這實際上對ENP有害。他們和別人一起、或在別人附近時幹得最好。專注於工作的同時,如果有旁人在場,對他們來說是一種很需要的激勵。

      ENP們在結束自己啟動的項目方麵有麻煩。這主要是歸於他們容易被環境分散注意力的因素,但也是因為一旦過了計劃階段,他們會很快對項目失去興趣。ENP喜歡提出有意思的想法和事情去做,但發現實際上實施計劃的過程冗長乏味。ENP們不會完成所有的項目,這應該可以理解,但應該鼓勵ENP最終完成一些項目。這對ENP是很重要的,他們需要認識到將工作進行到底的價值。

      能教給ENP的最有價值的事,是縮小關注範圍。每一刻,ENP腦中會有很多想法在轉,他們相信自己能做成任何事情。他們的見識並不注重現實,得反複告訴他們“做一件事並做好”。如果成年人能讓幼小的ENP牢記住這一點,那將是給了他們一份極好的禮物。

      ENP們不太關心成績,也不太關心做家庭作業。他們拒絕做那些讓人乏味的功課。相對於實際去解決問題,他們對理解問題背後的理論更感興趣。通過理論、而不是實例來學習,他們學得最好。他們需要在做任何事之前首先理解原理。為了讓ENP學進去,教師必須將實際應用背後的原理告知他們。

      讓我們舉除法的例子。一些孩子學習除法的最佳辦法是一遍又一遍地做練習。他們通過範例和重複來學習。一旦他們做了大量不同的除法題目後,他們就理解了除法是如何計算的,然後能夠自在地去做除法。ENP們學習除法的最佳辦法,是去理解將一個整個的數分割成若幹小部分的概念。他們看著一個圓中間劃了一條直線,然後明白了這整個圓被切成了兩個半圓,或者“除”成了兩半。一旦他們理解了原理,就能把它運用到除法題中,然後自在地去做除法。

      ENP們以達成目標為方向。當給出一個目標並讓他們以自己的方式獨自去完成時,他們幹得較好。他們不喜歡被清楚地告知如何做事。他們很珍視自己的想法和能力,認為明確的指示基本上是對自己智力的一種侮辱。他們希望獲得一個目標和一般的原理,然後調用自己的資源去填充其間的空白。



      ENP的特殊需要:


      ENP孩子對人的感知能力非常強,很容易判斷其他人的態度。如果一位父母懲戒ENP孩子時顯得很勉強或很猶豫,孩子會立即注意到,覺得他們也許能設法使你不實施懲罰。一般而言,ENP會經常試試可否越界,並總會試著把界線推遠一點。如果應該在9:30上床睡覺,他們會推遲到10:00。當他們能推遲到10:00後,他們會推遲到10:30。對ENP孩子,界線和規定必須定義得明確而堅決。

      ENP們認為任何事都是可能的,所以他們很難接受不能按其想法做事的現實。這給父母造成一個問題:如何試著為ENP孩子的行為製定規範。ENP們相信,任何情況下成果總是能產生出來的,所以他們會去做想自己做的事。如此一來,他們必然難以接受不能按其想法做事的現實。告知ENP不能做某事或不能獲得某物,會令他們費解和煩惱。隻要是想做的事,他們會反複地提出來並詢問。為了讓他們接受父母的意見,需要告訴他們父母為什麼要設定規則和界線。對ENP孩子,規則必須定義明確,不留變通解釋的餘地。

      ENP孩子非常獨立,其自尊大量地來源於能較好完成任務的自身能力。他們喜歡自行其是,不要父母或其他成年人告訴他們該做什麼。為了給予成長中的ENP以最好的鼓勵,成年人可以對他們的項目表示興趣,對他們的想法表示欽佩,並讓ENP不依靠太多的特別指導、而是想出辦法靠自己做事情。這和製定行為規範時應采用的方法並不相同。規定和界線必須堅決地設置給孩子,但是需要避免為達成目標給出特別指示。



      “缺失”的字母:


      成年人的人格類型包含4個字母,對於7至12歲的孩子,我們使用3個字母。那個缺失的字母呢?它在那兒,隻是我們通常得等孩子13歲後才能確定它是什麼。ENP孩子將成長為ENTP“幻想者”或ENFP“鼓舞者”。他們到底會選擇“思維”還是“情感”來補充其“直覺”偏向,在這個成長階段還不明顯。你將會看到,孩子反複練習“思考”和“情感”,直至在他們更喜歡些的那個功能上安頓下來。對某些孩子,分辨他們“缺失”的字母是可能的;但是對很多孩子,我們還得等上若幹年才能確定。








      3.Portrait of an ENP Child (Extraverted iNtuitive Perceiving)




      ENP Traits


      They have a lot of energy

      They're curious about everything, and seem to be always asking "Why?"

      They have lots of ideas and love to talk about them

      They always have several projects going on

      They want to be original and interesting

      They like to be leaders, and resist following

      They're very social

      They're very independent, and want to do things for themselves

      They want to be the center of attention

      They probably tend to be dramatic, and enjoy acting or performing

      They're outspoken and energetic, and may interrupt frequently, or finish people's sentences for them



      Potential Strengths


      They're usually cheerful, optimistic, and fun to be around

      They're enthusiastic and fearless

      They believe that anything is possible

      They have very good communication skills and a strong ability to persuade others to come around to their point of view

      They usually have a good vocabulary, and can express themselves well in written and verbal form

      They're very clever

      They show an unusual understanding of people and situations for a child

      They have good people skills and are usually well-liked

      They naturally see the possibilities of a situation and the "big picture"



      Potential Weaknesses


      They frequently forget rules, or else they never knew them in the first place

      They have a lot of projects going on at one time, and may be scattered

      They frequently don't finish their projects

      They're usually very messy, and dislike cleaning up

      They tend to speak in a very loud voice without realizing it

      They have difficulty making decisions, and often resist decisions

      They are often unaware of their physical environment

      They may not take good care of themselves

      They're not usually very aware of time or schedules

      They don't like being controlled by others, and may be rebellious

      They dislike being asked to do anything, and will often act very "put upon" by any request



      ENP Learning Style


      ENPs like to be busy and active, and need a lot of stimulation to keep from getting bored. They find tasks that require rote memorization intensely boring. They also don't do well with following pre-defined steps that someone else has come up with. ENPs like to be involved in their projects. They will only put effort into things that they are very interested in doing, which typically means that they need to have come up with the idea or contributed to it somehow. Alternatively, they can be motivated to participate in projects if someone else has really sold them on the idea, and thus inspired them to be interested in the project.



      ENPs are distracted easily from the task at hand, and need to really develop their ability to focus in on what they're doing and close out environmental distractions. This is an acquired skill for ENPs. This does not mean that the ENP should be put in a room by themselves to work on their assignments. This would actually be detrimental to the ENP. They work best with others, and around others. They should be encouraged to work on their projects in the presence of others, but to remain focused on what they're doing.



      ENPs have trouble finishing projects that they have begun. This is partially due to the fact that they are easily distracted environmentally, but also due to the fact that they quickly lose interest in their projects once they are past the planning phase. ENPs love to come up with interesting ideas and things to do, but find the process of actually implementing their plans to be tedious. ENPs will not finish all of their projects, and this should be understood, but the ENP should be encouraged to complete some projects all the way through to the end. This is an important step for the ENP, who needs to learn the value of following through.



      The most valuable thing that can be taught to an ENP is the concept of narrowing their focus. The ENP has many ideas going on at once in their head, and believes that they can do everything. They are not realistic in their scope. They should be told repeatedly "pick one thing and do it well". The adult who is able to impress this upon the young ENP will be giving them a tremendous gift.



      ENPs are not very concerned with their grades, or with doing their homework. They will resist doing assignments that they find tedious. They are far more interested in understanding the theory behind a problem than they are in actually doing the problem. They learn best by theory rather than by example. They need to understand the theory before they can do anything. Teachers should communicate the theory behind the practical application in order to get through to the ENP.



      Let's use division as an example. Some children learn how to divide numbers best by doing it over and over again. They learn by example and repetition. Once they have done a lot of different division problems, they understand how it works and are comfortable with dividing numbers. ENPs learn division best by understanding the concepting of dividing a whole number into smaller parts. They see a circle with a line drawn down the middle, and understand that the whole has been cut in half, or "divided" in half. Once they understand the theory, they can apply this to their division problems and they are comfortable with dividing numbers.



      ENPs are goal-oriented, and do well when given the goal and left alone to achieve it in their own way. They don't like being told explicitly how to do things. They value their own ideas and competence, and treat explicit instructions almost as an insult to their intelligence. They want to be given a goal and a general theory, and use their own resources to fill in the blanks.



      ENP Special Needs


      ENP children are extremely perceptive about people, and can determine someone else's attitude pretty easily. If a parent disciplines their ENP child reluctantly or with hesitation, the ENP will pick up on that immediately and perceive that they might be able to get away with pushing you to not discipline them. In general, the ENP tests their boundaries regularly, and will always try to push their boundaries out a bit further. If they're supposed to be in bed at 9:30, they'll push for 10:00. When they get 10:00, they'll push for 10:30. Boundaries and guidelines need to be defined explicitly and firmly for the ENP child.



      ENPs believe that anything is possible, so they have a hard time accepting that they can't get their way. This creates a problem for parents trying to create guidelines for their ENP children's behavior. ENPs believe that surely things could be worked out in any situation so that the ENP gets want they want, and consequently they have a really hard time accepting that they're not going to get their way. For an ENP, being told that they can't do something or have something is perplexing and troubling. They will push repeatedly and ask repeatedly for whatever it is that they're seeking. In order for them to accept their parent's judgment, they need to be told WHY the parent has set the rule or boundary. The rule needs to be defined explicitly to the ENP child, with no room for alternative interpretation.



      ENP children are very independent and find their greatest source of self-esteem from their abilities to do things well. They want to do things for themselves, and resist having their parents or other adults telling them what to do. An adult can best encourage a growing ENP by showing interest in their projects and admiration for the ENP's ideas, and by letting the ENP figure out how to do things on their own without too many specific instructions. This is different from the approach that should be taken when defining guidelines for behavior. Rules and boundaries should be set firmly for the child, but specific instructions on achieving goals should be avoided.



      The "Missing" Letter


      Adult personality types contain four letters, while for kids aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is around 13 years old. ENP kids will grow up to be either ENTP "Visionaries" or ENFP "Inspirers". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Thinking or Feeling to complement their preference for Intuition. You will see the child practicing both Thinking and Feeling as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.



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    • 夢如瓜09-26 18:57
      有趣
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    • karry 2018-05-22
      太準了。我就是這樣的~
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